How do I work
I draw from Psychodynamic, Systemic and Narrative theories in order to provide a service that is tailored to your needs.
Benefits of Therapy
Therapy has many reported benefits; it is rare that people leave therapy without feeling a positive change. However, success really depends on what you want to get out of the sessions and your readiness to engage.
- For some people, therapy transforms their relationships and their lives; for others, it can help them solve a specific problem and move forward with more confidence and less anxiety.
- Whether you are attending on your own or as a couple, therapy can help you gain a better understanding of yourself in relation to others and the world around you.
- Therapy can help you to understand how past experiences may have shaped your present. Consequently, this may help you develop an understanding of how you could improve your relationships.
- As an individual, you can gain an understanding of the triggers and traps in life that could be causing you some distress and develop ways of coping with them.
- Therapy can help you to develop greater resilience when faced with worries, stresses and the strains of life.
Frequently Asked Questions
Who are my clients?
My clients are people just like you. They work for living; many spend a lot of their time at work, some have been in a relationship for a long time, others have not yet been able to build a long-term relationship. My clients come from varied social, cultural and ethnic backgrounds; usually they have been coping or managing life just fine.
What happens in the first session?
Once you decide you would like to see me, you will be asked to attend an initial consultation session. In this session, we will discuss what has brought you to therapy, your personal circumstances and hopes and expectations. This initial session will provide the space for you and I to decide whether we feel comfortable with each other to begin working together.
When making this decision, you may want to think about how you feel being in the room with me. It is worth keeping in mind that it can be difficult to talk about sensitive matters with a professional that you have just started working with. This will get easier as we build a trusting therapeutic relationship.
Do I have to do anything before the first session?
You don’t have to do anything, although you might find it useful to think about your situation and how you want counselling or psychotherapy to help. You may want to consider: What has led you to seek help? What are the things you wish to change?
How long will I need therapy for?
Different people chose to engage in therapy for differing amounts of time. This is something that we can discuss together in the assessment session and also throughout therapy. Ultimately you are free to stop therapy whenever you like, although it is often more helpful to agree and plan an end to therapy so that we can work towards ending.
What happens to the information I share with my therapist?
The information that you share with me will be kept confidential. However, there may be times when I am legally obliged to share information with other professionals. This can happen if a client discloses information that places themselves or someone else at serious risk. In rare cases such as these, I will endeavour to inform you prior to breaking confidentiality.
Myths about therapy
The psychotherapist will want to talk about parents/childhood
My work encourages the client to understand their current circumstances. This can involve making links with the past. Such insights may help the client to make positive changes in their lives and identify and recognise patterns from the past.
The psychotherapist will side with my partner
As a relationship therapist, my aim is to keep the sessions balanced independently of who has made the initial contact or who is bringing problem. Relationship therapists undergo years of training to be able to work with more than one story in the room. During the sessions, I seek to gain an understanding of the impact of the clients’ problems on their life as a couple, and how each respond to the problem.
Therapy will change the person I am.
Therapy is a collaborative process which allows the client and therapist to work together on what brings them to therapy. It is not the therapist’s role to tell the client what to think or feel but to support the client so that they can understand their own thoughts and feelings.